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How to completely lose interest in a guy.

Sure.. there are many tests that we do
as women.. to decide how we feel about a guy.
We spend time with them and try to get
to know them.

Often times.. our initial assesment is based on looks
and potential attraction.
I have added another level to that.

Now while I am not looking for other guys anymore..
I can still try and determine whether they are
good guys in general.. or would be cool as friends.

My test is very specific, but i believe it can be translated
into many different scenarios.

1. Get on a Bus.
2. Ride around for a while.. and eventually.. an elderly person
or a person with an injury or disability will get on.

3. Look around, if you have been riding with a cute/interesting
guy, watch his reaction.

4. Does he get up and offer his seat?

5. Take into consideration of course where he is sitting and if there
are already other seats available.

6. if he gets up. 2 POINTS!!!

7. if not: FAIL. Move on to another Man cause this one is NOT a keeper.

This happened to me the other day.  A woman on one crutch and attempting to carry her groceries got on the bus. I was already standing. He was sitting right in the front and he glanced at her and just looked away.. she looked helplessly from person to person.. trying to find a seat. it took way too long in my opionion.
i was angry.. at everyone, but really angry at that young man.

Young men of the world: Give up your seats. you should be at least sort of athletic and able to stand on your own.

that is all.  <3!

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Hope is relentless.

Do you ever start a thought…and then something happens…small or big, but it happens.
Then, the thoughts that seemed to plague your mind before..seem far off and “Now, where was I?”

Thats where I am right now.  I was filled with crazy thoughts this morning as I got ready for the day, and I’ve suddenly lost it. 

But I’ll post what i’ve written so far..however incomplete and scattered it may be. 

have at it.

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What is a friend?

A single soul dwelling in two bodies.

Aristotle seems to think so.  While I do not agree, it sounds nice
I’m not some quote analyzer, but it seems to speak of the connection
as being deeper than we realize.

Or maybe its just saying..that we can only really be friends with people that are like us?
Or..we can only serve those that serve us? or..maybe we can only truly love ourselves.
It’s kind of funny to think about being friends with
your own soul.

also kind of ..boring sounding. So while at first that quote sounded romantic and sweet to me…
i now think its rather silly.

*chuckles* Let me know if you have a different interpretation. I’d love to hear it.

I am feeling especially grateful today.
I’ve just had two people I love visit me in the past couple of weeks,
and now I’m left with a wonderful smile and good memories.
Although, its hard after being spoiled to get back in the flow of things.
Everyone should move to Vancouver…we can all get houses next to each other..
and paint each one a different color.
I have good ideas on a regular basis. :)

Woot. Ender’s Game.

Now, I am on route to write a piece of music that accurately describes my emotions

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Maybe we just like yelling.

I want a hug that says “I know”

I want to be known for who I am, not what my actions display..
because I’ve been wondering if actions really do speak louder than words…in the way we mean that phrase..

Yeah, maybe they speak louder, but does that mean they are a more accurate source?

Is the loudest person in the room the smartest person in the room? I think not.
We are an “of the moment” generation. everything we need is at our fingertips.
Including…what we think is the best source for understanding someone, and analyzing them.

If Person A acts this way, that means they =B …even if Person A says they are C, they are B…because well..
they acted this way, and their actions speak louder than words.

I understand this phrase as a push to better ourselves..to continue down the discipleship path..and hopefully through the grace of God…let our actions be transformed by God’s goodness…

not as some condemning reality that we all must face…that no matter what we say, people will always take our actions above words.
You don’t have to dig deep for Actions. there they are. I think that phrase is used as a lazy tool to categorize people. I lazy friendship device…and I hate how we’ve twisted it all up.
Isn’t the beauty of friendship all in the work it takes to know someone?

The time spent..the pain, fun, happiness, easy times, hard times.  When we take the “right” to judge someone by their actions, and then publicly announce that if your actions don’t line up to your words, then you are “cut off” …my goodness. my goodness.

To quote Derek Webb..if thats the way its going to be..then “I don’t care if nobody loves me, but you”

I once learned about how our actions are just the branches and fruit of our World views and core beliefs.
But..just because your core beliefs may be a bit out of wack, does that mean YOU are out of wack…

Of course not..who was I meant to be? who am I ?

BAh. lets all work a little harder, myself included.

Typing.

Do ever just feel like opening a word document, and just…typing. I love the feeling of my thoughts
rolling off of my fingers without thinking about what I’m typing…

My pure, un-edited thoughts.

I was thinking just now about why on earth I would want to post these random thoughts on a public blog. Some people say blogs are our vain way to feel better about ourselves, and get attention
Over the years, I’ve gained friends all over the world…and I miss them.
and even though I know not even a fraction of those friends read this..

Somehow, by posting this on the web, I imagine that crazy technology will carry my thoughts to them…

I am sitting on the 3rd floor of our office counting books. it is cold, quiet, and it smells like cardboard.
I want to talk to someone, but I’m not sure who.
I feel pensive, but thankfully not depressed, or “woe is me”
I miss lying in the grass and looking up at the stars with someone close.
I want a spontaneous moment of freedom.
I want to be understood completely, and in that..loved just the same.

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My couch squeeks.

I want to walk alongside you
to learn all you know
Appreciate your unique step
And your crooked toes.

I want to see your messy room
Not the one you cleaned
Before I came…
The remnants of your “failed” artwork.
Yes, we’re slightly the same.

I want to see your stack of unfinished books..
or the ones you dream to read.
Not to judge you for the process..
But to know that there’s a seed.

Just add water meals
And busted Velcro shoes
Four channel Televisions,
and two-bar blues.

If you’re thinking that this sounds like you..
And you are feeling quite plain
Don’t hide from me, come to my door, and
I will love you just the same.

me.

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